BLACK WOMAN - HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

How to love yourself

Turn up it'll be the start of the new week ladies and gentlemen, I have been racking my brain about what to talk about so I thought 'how to love yourself'.

Everyone talks about self confidence, be yourself and all that gist but they never tell us how to achieve that. There are a thousand things that bring us down, that hurt us and break us down.

Mostly it's words. Words can make serious damage to us without us even realizing it. It stick in our heads and messes us up, mentally. Trust me, that's the worst way to be messed up.

So I've outlined a few tips on how to love yourself. This is what has kept me sane and I hope it works for you too;

#Tip 1: Self Realization

Self realization is learning and knowing about ones self. It's like self meditation. Think deep and learn what you really like, dislike, admire, love, your drive, goals, things that you really love and care for. These things make up who you are as an individual. A uniquely special person. There is no other person in this world that has the same exact likes, hates or quirks as you. You are you.

I'm not only referring to your good parts. Even your nasty, selfish, greedy parts too. Cause they are all part of you. Learning and knowing about these sides of you makes you work on the bad qualities. No one can be perfect or made perfect but we can always try to be our better selves when certain situations arise. So you work on those bad parts too.

Self realization is an easy and fast step in learning how to love yourself. You just have to know what you like. As simple as that.

#Tip 2: The Blind Eye

This step is the one that I see as the toughest. If you can achieve this, then ladies or gentlemen, my lesson is done. The blind eye is also said to be ignoring the bullsh*t thrown your way. We are all human, we talk about a thousand and one things. People will -and it's a must- talk about you, it's unavoidable. The best you can do is to turn a blind eye. Ignore them.

If you stand to talk or respond to everyone or thing that hinders your way, you'll be stuck in the same spot forever or you'll even go back.

If a person slanders you, one thing to do is, relax, take a cup of tea, think to yourself and ask 'Is that really me?' this is where we take advantage of our self realization. In this instance we already know ourselves so whatever people say, we know if it's true or not, be it good or bad.

Learn these first two steps and you are on your way to inner peace. There's one more step left and that will be added I. Next weeks post. In the mean time I want you all to read and digest the first two steps. Everyone is created and fashioned differently. Don't let the likes of one person become yours. 

Stay tuned. 

Aisha is a young writer. She writes to promote everything about the African woman. And hopes to bring glory to the continent.

All rights to this content is reserved, No part of this content may be used or reproduced in any form without the prior written permission of the writer, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and uses permitted by copy right law. For permission requests, email the media team at: content@niwcolony.com. Please click on the subscribe button to receive latest blog updates.